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Post by kitsuneoni on Oct 7, 2004 6:54:31 GMT -5
When I'm mad at either friends or family, to avoid saying too much I normally stomp off and kick some things or throw pillows or write. I'm not like my sis, who lashes out a lot.
It's so true that friends can leave. It's both a good and a bad thing.
I feel very ignorant, but what exactly is happening at Mt St Helens? Is it erupting? I think I heard something on the news but the majority of the attention of the Italian media is concentrated on Iraq and the EU and politics and such.
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Post by Salmastryon on Oct 7, 2004 12:55:58 GMT -5
*huggles Kellen* Hope you and yours are in a safe place. As a teenager I had a wicked temper. Now, I rarely get angry. I might get upset or annoyed but rarely angry. In fact if I get angry at a person and lose my temper at you it means that I really trust you. Since, I've got trust issues that says a lot. I still remember my first fight with my best friend. It was such an energizing rush to lose my temper at here, not the nastiness of getting upset when people hurt my feelings. I think that was largely because I trusted her enough to now that we'd still be friends despite losing my temper at her and despite what might come out of my mouth as a result. One of the things I'm working really hard on is the fact that tend to editorialize myself around people depending on my reactions. It isn't that I'm try to become something I'm not to fit in. More not bothering them with parts of me they can't understand. That is part of what makes online so hard for me. Never know if I'm boring people or not or if I'm rambling on too much. It doesn't help that my posts always seem to get so long...
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Post by kitsuneoni on Oct 8, 2004 2:51:33 GMT -5
I also seem to get an energizing rush when I get mad, and I don't really know why.
I don't mind your long posts! They're probably more interesting than my short little ones.
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Post by cesmith on Oct 8, 2004 17:53:31 GMT -5
It's funny. I am so the other way. After I get really angry, I get very moody and lethargic. I also tend to cry at the end of being mad. Guilt for loosing my temper, for what I might have said (fighting fair only works if I don't get TOO angry), for not having said something before I blew? I really hate reaching that point and do try to avoid it, but it's not always possible. Sometimes it takes a good cry for me to want to talk it out. Emotional? ME? Yes.
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Post by kellen on Oct 9, 2004 14:15:28 GMT -5
*waves sheepishly*
Sorry to post about a possibly dangerous situation and then disappear for a couple days. *winces* Very idiot thing of me to do...
I'm about 45 miles, as the crow flies, from Mt St Helens crater. Right now, it's having continual shallow tremors, and steam venting. That last major thing was on Tuesday, where it threw up a 13,000 plume of ash. It's created a new lava dome that has risen 250 feet in the last few days, and we're at alert level 2, which is one step below the highest alert level (used only when the volcano is erupting, which is what it was at on Tuesday). It's still being watched closely and eruption is imminent, though scientists don't know how powerful it will be. They're saying it won't be anywhere as strong as 1980's eruption, which brought much of the Pacific Northwest to a halt. But, the mountain also rumbled like this for two months before that eruption, so we're looking at possibly weeks before we see anything.
I work with the Northwest (USA) chapter of the Southern Baptist Disaster Relief in a purely logistical, clerical position. We're the Yellow Shirts assciated with Red Cross who run the kitchens and such to feed both relief workers and those displaced by disaster. Right now, we have teams in Florrida b/c of hte hurricanes and we've had teams in Iran, Afghanistan and Iraq recently. We're mobilizing and preparing for possible repercussions should the mountain decide to blow.
Sorry to ramble on... I gotta run, though. Have a BBQ with friends in a couple hours.
cheers,Kellen
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Post by cesmith on Oct 9, 2004 15:39:04 GMT -5
Thanks Kellen. Just glad to know all is ok. I remember how it was in 1980 when it blew. Even on the East Coast, everyone was glued to the tv, hoping for the best.
Enjoy your BBQ and stay safe.
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Post by narrizan on Jul 4, 2005 1:57:54 GMT -5
I agree here; - This is a problem. I sometimes have a hard time to understand what other people mean. And If I'm in a depressed mood, I might interpret things differently than I would have done if I've been in a happy mood. For this, I thoroughly appologize. Of course I can be misunderstood, too. As you wrote, without the body language and tone of voice, it can be very hard to say things in a way that can only be interpreted the same way the writer meant it. I guess the only thing to do is to post a question to ask if it was meant the way it was interpreted. If we all try our best to communicate, and give the others the benefit of the doubt if we think someone is angry, then eventually we can solve all misunderstandings. Kellen : You have my admiration and respect. I can't tell from reading your posts and your stories, that you have a problem with dyslexia. Kudos to you. And hello to everyone else too. this thread caught my eye and I thought I would revive it somewhat. I know that lots of people have problems with language either as written word or spoken. Me included. I myself prefer the written, because I feel less inhibited (as OptiMoose puts it because of the anonymity), I guess. As to the spoken word...well I have an unusual problem, which is not unique I am sure. Where I am people speak a very strange form of English (termed 'Singlish') which can be a little difficult to understand if you haven't been here a while. Unfortunately those of us who do speak it to some level of correctness comes across as being either snobby, a wannabe foreigner or we just get stared at as we were aliens. Usually all three. Although my first language is English, my mother tongue is Malay. I spent years abroad and I suppose the way I speak is a result of partly being overseas for so long and partly just me. Although I assure people it is NOT an accent I *put on* as it were, I get the feeling that people disbelieve me still. I have many times resorted to 'downgrading' my level of English so that I may be understood. I don't really fault them really as some of them can't help it. But I do feel a little sad for myself as I feel I am losing some sense of the propriety of the spoken word. I hope some of *THAT* made sense to someone else apart from me! ;D As it is I do try to be correct every time I post a fic up. However grammar isn't my strong point I think I spell OK, although I do get confused with the use of "s" and "z" in some words although it depends on whose pc I have been working on. (My hubby's has UK spelling on it, and my sister's has US spelling), and I know I mostly spell with "our" as in colour, flavour, etc. I have my ever faithful Oxford dictionary and my Roget's Thesaurus. But I do still miss the odd word. I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes with this. Much love - zan
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Post by Salmastryon on Sept 20, 2005 14:33:24 GMT -5
That is a problem with spoken word. I had a simular problem at the one place I worked though not nearly to the extent you probably experience. I tend to have a fairly varied vocabulary because of all the reading I do. Until, I took this job I never realized just how many "big words" snuckinto my day to day converse. It never came out with my friends at the time. We were are voratious readers. one of my more annoying co-workers at the job had apparently gotten his fill of me using words he didn't know the use of. Mostly i think because he didn't know what I meant whne I called him pragmatic. He told me to stop using "big words" that no one understood. AT first I was skeptical, I mean these were common vocab for me. After asking around I found out frommy co works that I used 4 or 5 words a day they'd never heard of before. I was horrified and ashamed. I had no desire to come of as a snotty know it all as the co-worker who brought it to my attention called me. I was horribily self constious for days, try to edit my speach. Until the co-workers who were my friends drilled it into my head that they could understand me fine and to ignore that asshole. One of them confessed to me she kept a list of all the new words I used to look up and studay when she got home from work. *^^* The teenager I was felt like sinking into the floor at that point. I digressed, but my own experiences and from what I understand of yours illustrate the point I wanted to make from the beginning. The fact that pronounciation, grammer, vocabulary and sentence structure bring with them steriotypical impressions to the listener and that this flows over into written word as well. While our normal speach can send negative messages to people, that we don't intend to, learning to recognize the these signals can be a powerful tool for communication. And, I myself find it much easier to adjust my written word then my spoken. Even the none writer uses it. The difference between a formally written letter to a casual IM. ...I think I've rambled enough.
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Post by narrizan on May 9, 2006 17:28:46 GMT -5
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Post by cesmith on May 15, 2006 0:20:36 GMT -5
I liked the Lost Causes section, especially since I am guilty of the it's infraction myself and mixing up lie and lay. I thought her example for laid was very amusing.
I haven't visited the aestheticism website for quite a while. Thanks for sharing the link.
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